Today has been a rough day. Not just with motivation, but with behavior and the lessons that come with them. Earlier today my youngest, Aramis, came up to his big brother Athos and offered him a caramel candy. Just as Athos was accepting the candy, Aramis took it back yelling "NO! IT'S MINE!!!" Athos in turn called him a jerk, and rightfully so. No, I am not condoning name calling.
I wanted Aramis to apologize. But first I needed him to understand what he did wrong, and why it was wrong. We tried talking about it, with no success in comprehension. Even still, I gave him paper and instructed him to write out what he did wrong, why it was wrong and then on a separate sheet, write an apology letter to his brother. After a few hours, Aramis hadn't gotten past writing out his offense.
Intro the lesson taught, which was hard for me to teach and hard for him to learn. I asked Aramis over and told him he was doing a good job. I asked for his hand and asked if he'd like a smiley face stamp on his hand, to which he smiled and said yes. This is where it gets hard. Now, please don't judge. We all have our moments where we don't know how else to get the point across to our child and are seemingly left with no other alternative. I pulled the stamp away and very meanly told him "No! It's MY stamp and you can't have it!".
Deep breath. He cried. It broke my heart to see him so hurt like that. Knowing that I just caused this pain. But I pulled myself up by my boot straps, looked him square in the eyes and asked him if what I did was mean. "Yes". I asked him why was it mean? "Because you were nice and then you were mean." he said. So I told him to go think on that and write that down. Now he is writing the apology letter and was not sure what to write. I told him to write to Athos what he would like for me to say to him.
Today my son learned that he wouldn't want to be treated that way, and he shouldn't treat others like that. Today I learned that not all lessons will come out of a book, and they aren't all going to be pleasant.
Tuesday, August 26, 2014
Friday, July 25, 2014
Lending Library?
Ok, so I was looking over my stock of books and other educational materials, when I had an idea; a homeschool lending library. I have been collecting a plethora of educational books for multiple grade levels, as well as worksheets and such. I also love just collecting books in general. There is a good sized homeschooling group in the area. Why not start a lending library that caters to local home educators?
If we could find a place in town, like a church, that would allow us to use one of their classrooms for keeping the books that aren't being used at that moment, we could all pool our resources and share. The church classroom would be where each family could come and check out a book, curriculum, whatever for their family and return it when they are done. I know there would be a longer check-out for curriculum and the honor system would really have to work for this.
See, I am the type of person that doesn't like to write in books. So, all of the books and tests and workbooks I have acquired so far will, hopefully, have no marks in them at the end of the school year. I plan on photo copying worksheets and having the boys write their answers on a separate sheet of paper for everything else.
I think it could work. So long as there are no legal issues with this venture. I mean, this would be completely not for profit. There would be no reselling of materials. Just donations and borrowing. Now I just need to find a place to host this and draw in enough interest. I wonder...
If we could find a place in town, like a church, that would allow us to use one of their classrooms for keeping the books that aren't being used at that moment, we could all pool our resources and share. The church classroom would be where each family could come and check out a book, curriculum, whatever for their family and return it when they are done. I know there would be a longer check-out for curriculum and the honor system would really have to work for this.
See, I am the type of person that doesn't like to write in books. So, all of the books and tests and workbooks I have acquired so far will, hopefully, have no marks in them at the end of the school year. I plan on photo copying worksheets and having the boys write their answers on a separate sheet of paper for everything else.
I think it could work. So long as there are no legal issues with this venture. I mean, this would be completely not for profit. There would be no reselling of materials. Just donations and borrowing. Now I just need to find a place to host this and draw in enough interest. I wonder...
Monday, July 21, 2014
Tying up loose ends
I have spent the past two months acquiring curriculum for the boys. So far, I have BJU Reading 1, Heritage Studies 1 and 4, American Republic (8th grade) Space and Earth Science 8, and Pre-Algebra. For 1st grade Math, I am going to use Kumon workbooks. 4th grade Reading and any other otherwise uncovered subjects will be done through www.allinonehomeschool.com (Easy Peasy). 4th grade science will be Pearson Texas Interactive Science. Athos will be taking Spanish 1 this year. I have found a few websites that offer free lessons, as well as Spanish Ed books at a local bookstore I am considering.
Athos and Porthos are attending Drama Camp this month. Athos has the lead villain and Porthos decided to learn about Lighting and Sound, and in the end was a clown. In August, we will start out with Shark Week doing a unit study on the topic. I have printed a bunch of worksheets for that and bookmarked several videos on Netflix for it. Then the following week we will begin our curriculum. I have my calendar pretty much complete. Aramis is looking forward to studying art and has agreed to also learn other topics as well. ;) There is an art museum about 2 hours away, so that will be a day trip for us.
I am really looking forward to this. I think the biggest thing I feel is not figured out is bible time. I am sure it will all come together in time. I know how blessed we are to be in a state that allows such homeschooling freedom, and how much we have been blessed with curriculum. I look forward to sharing this journey with you all.
Athos and Porthos are attending Drama Camp this month. Athos has the lead villain and Porthos decided to learn about Lighting and Sound, and in the end was a clown. In August, we will start out with Shark Week doing a unit study on the topic. I have printed a bunch of worksheets for that and bookmarked several videos on Netflix for it. Then the following week we will begin our curriculum. I have my calendar pretty much complete. Aramis is looking forward to studying art and has agreed to also learn other topics as well. ;) There is an art museum about 2 hours away, so that will be a day trip for us.
I am really looking forward to this. I think the biggest thing I feel is not figured out is bible time. I am sure it will all come together in time. I know how blessed we are to be in a state that allows such homeschooling freedom, and how much we have been blessed with curriculum. I look forward to sharing this journey with you all.
Tuesday, June 3, 2014
Family Pressures
Since announcing my decision to home school, I have had a few family members voice their concerns. One has even alluded to the notion that they know what is best for my children, perhaps better than me. Me. The one that gave birth to these three. Me. The one who has raised them. Me. The one who has held them when they cried and cheered them on when they competed. Me. The one who taught them to talk, to walk, to feed themselves. The one who taught them sign language when they were infants, who taught them how to count, and recite their ABC'S. The one who taught them their colors and shapes and encouraged them to read by reading with them. Me. The one who taught them to share and has dried their tears when they have been hurt or had a rough day. Me. The one who sat up with my oldest when he couldn't sleep because he was so stressed over school and told the middle boy that I would be proud of him no matter what, and to just do his best and not worry about the rest when the teachers at public school had him stressed about STAAR tests. Me.
Not them.
I hope that people can accept that I am going to do what I feel is best for my child, and this is no reflection of those around me. It is just where I feel God has guided my family.
It occurred to me today that I have always gone against the grain, so to speak, when it has come to how I raise my children. We did co-sleeping rather than make them cry it out in a crib in a separate room. We did extended breastfeeding, and endured unending comments of how they were never going to become independent. "What happens when they go to school? Are they still going to be nursing?" Let me just say, they did transition to their own beds and rooms by the time they were 18 months to 2 years old. They nursed for just as long. I taught them sign language when they were infants. They were subsequently able to tell me when they wanted to nurse or when they were all done before they were 1. They had a full vocal vocabulary by the time they were two. I didn't let them watch anything that wasn't age appropriate and educational for the longest time, something I feel I need to get back into with them, as I have slacked off since moving closer to family. All of these things I have done with and for my children, and I have been ridiculed by family. Yet, my children consistently get high grades in school, are wonderful boys who love one another, are polite, mostly well behaved, children. They are coming into their own and I am enjoying their personalities blossom. My children have done more than just fine with me as their parent. That's not going to change. Thank you for your concern, but please let me do job.
Not them.
I hope that people can accept that I am going to do what I feel is best for my child, and this is no reflection of those around me. It is just where I feel God has guided my family.
It occurred to me today that I have always gone against the grain, so to speak, when it has come to how I raise my children. We did co-sleeping rather than make them cry it out in a crib in a separate room. We did extended breastfeeding, and endured unending comments of how they were never going to become independent. "What happens when they go to school? Are they still going to be nursing?" Let me just say, they did transition to their own beds and rooms by the time they were 18 months to 2 years old. They nursed for just as long. I taught them sign language when they were infants. They were subsequently able to tell me when they wanted to nurse or when they were all done before they were 1. They had a full vocal vocabulary by the time they were two. I didn't let them watch anything that wasn't age appropriate and educational for the longest time, something I feel I need to get back into with them, as I have slacked off since moving closer to family. All of these things I have done with and for my children, and I have been ridiculed by family. Yet, my children consistently get high grades in school, are wonderful boys who love one another, are polite, mostly well behaved, children. They are coming into their own and I am enjoying their personalities blossom. My children have done more than just fine with me as their parent. That's not going to change. Thank you for your concern, but please let me do job.
Saturday, May 31, 2014
Last day of Public School
Yesterday was the last day of public school here, and the first day that it started to sink in with the 3 Musketeers. It started with Aramis. He began to get all mopey. By the end of the day, when it was nearly time for bed, he was crying. Aramis realized he was going to miss his friends. I hugged him and loved on him and told him that he would see them throughout the summer at VBS's (I've signed them up for everyone in this town). I told this youngest one that I have the school directory and we can call them.
Skip ahead an hour. The two younger boys, Porthos and Aramis are in bed when Porthos begins crying heavily. He too will miss his friends. I tell him the same thing I told Aramis. He finally settled down, or so I thought. Nearly an hour later I find Athos in the younger two's room once again comforting Porthos and encouraging him to sleep. When Athos comes out, he confides in me that today he too had realized that he would miss his friends. Who knew my children had become such social butterflies. I reassured him much as I had the other two. I think the fact that we have a birthday party today will help them greatly with the adjustment to summer, and in turn homeschooling. Wish me luck.
Skip ahead an hour. The two younger boys, Porthos and Aramis are in bed when Porthos begins crying heavily. He too will miss his friends. I tell him the same thing I told Aramis. He finally settled down, or so I thought. Nearly an hour later I find Athos in the younger two's room once again comforting Porthos and encouraging him to sleep. When Athos comes out, he confides in me that today he too had realized that he would miss his friends. Who knew my children had become such social butterflies. I reassured him much as I had the other two. I think the fact that we have a birthday party today will help them greatly with the adjustment to summer, and in turn homeschooling. Wish me luck.
Wednesday, May 21, 2014
Deciding to Homeschool
This is a repost from my other blog "Life or something like it".
Very recently, Everette and I decided that we will home school at least the two younger boys come the new school year. At this time, our oldest is being given the choice. I have done tons of research, we have talked about it, prayed about it and after much debate finally decided that this is the right move for our family. It feels like such a huge decision, like getting married or deciding to have another child or buy a house. This is our children's future. No longer will we blindly leave their education to virtual strangers or a government that does not know us. This is not something we are taking lightly. This didn't just pop into our minds to do. Rather, it is something we have been discussing for over two years.
This past week I have been researching learning and teaching methods, curriculum, everything. Going into this, I had no idea how broad a statement "homeschooling" is. I am rapidly learning that there is much to decide. Do we want to invest hundreds of dollars for materials or utilize more of the free tools online? Do we stick with just one program or pull from several resources? I haven't even decided how tight a schedule we will keep.
I already feel that a portion of our home will become dedicated to learning. I have a ton of rearranging to do. Need to figure out what should stay in the house and what needs to either be sold or put in the shed. I know it will be a lot of trial and error until we figure even half of this all out. I was afraid that we were going to get a lot of flack for making this decision, but so far most friend and family feedback has been very positive. There has been only one so far that is against it. If there is anyone else who disagrees with our decision, they have kept silent so far.
I want to say that I am not making this decision with the opinion that everyone should home school. I just know that at this time in my life, I want to have more of a say in what and how my children learn. I want the freedom to take the kids out and go explore. Whether that takes place at the library, the park, zoo, museum or even the grocery store. And I don't want to have to plan our lives around their school work. I would rather plan their school work around our lives. There have been some frustrations with the school system. Without a doubt, the STAAR testing plays a big part in all of this. That is a rant for another day though. In the end it comes down to wanting more time with my children. More involvement and say in what goes on in their days, and in their brains.
I know that there are going to be sacrifices. I definitely cannot get a job outside the home now. I can't just go out for coffee while the kids are in school. The biggest one is I will be fully responsible for our children's education. Everette works and will continue to work. At times he will be attending college classes as well. So this does fall solely on my shoulders. I know there will be days I will want to pull my hair out or drop them off at the school and say "you take them". But with God's strength and the support of friends and family and a fairly large homeschooling group, we can do this.
Very recently, Everette and I decided that we will home school at least the two younger boys come the new school year. At this time, our oldest is being given the choice. I have done tons of research, we have talked about it, prayed about it and after much debate finally decided that this is the right move for our family. It feels like such a huge decision, like getting married or deciding to have another child or buy a house. This is our children's future. No longer will we blindly leave their education to virtual strangers or a government that does not know us. This is not something we are taking lightly. This didn't just pop into our minds to do. Rather, it is something we have been discussing for over two years.
This past week I have been researching learning and teaching methods, curriculum, everything. Going into this, I had no idea how broad a statement "homeschooling" is. I am rapidly learning that there is much to decide. Do we want to invest hundreds of dollars for materials or utilize more of the free tools online? Do we stick with just one program or pull from several resources? I haven't even decided how tight a schedule we will keep.
I already feel that a portion of our home will become dedicated to learning. I have a ton of rearranging to do. Need to figure out what should stay in the house and what needs to either be sold or put in the shed. I know it will be a lot of trial and error until we figure even half of this all out. I was afraid that we were going to get a lot of flack for making this decision, but so far most friend and family feedback has been very positive. There has been only one so far that is against it. If there is anyone else who disagrees with our decision, they have kept silent so far.
I want to say that I am not making this decision with the opinion that everyone should home school. I just know that at this time in my life, I want to have more of a say in what and how my children learn. I want the freedom to take the kids out and go explore. Whether that takes place at the library, the park, zoo, museum or even the grocery store. And I don't want to have to plan our lives around their school work. I would rather plan their school work around our lives. There have been some frustrations with the school system. Without a doubt, the STAAR testing plays a big part in all of this. That is a rant for another day though. In the end it comes down to wanting more time with my children. More involvement and say in what goes on in their days, and in their brains.
I know that there are going to be sacrifices. I definitely cannot get a job outside the home now. I can't just go out for coffee while the kids are in school. The biggest one is I will be fully responsible for our children's education. Everette works and will continue to work. At times he will be attending college classes as well. So this does fall solely on my shoulders. I know there will be days I will want to pull my hair out or drop them off at the school and say "you take them". But with God's strength and the support of friends and family and a fairly large homeschooling group, we can do this.
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